It's more than cold feet. He has been giving off hints for months that he doesn't want to be married to you; however, it has gone over your head. You still plan your wedding with this man because you love him and you think that he adores you.
Rachel Gallagher, is the protagonist of this Christian romance, called, "Don't Throw The Rice, Yet." Break-ups happen, and I'm the type of woman that prefers a guy to break-up with me if he doesn't want to be apart of my life, but do it long before our wedding day... honesty should kick in somehow.
The antagonist of this story is obviously Marty Nelson, the runaway groom, although later we will learn when you read the book that his break-up with Rachel was proven to be a blessing in disguise for her. After some soul searching, true love finally happens for Rachel.
Not every one we meet in life is meant to be a permanent fixture. I'm one who believes that I do have a soulmate out there. With all of the relationships I had in the past, I thought that every one of the men I was involved with, had the potential to be the "One." Which was proven wrong; and I had quite a few serious relationships.
However, unlike Rachel whose character is atheist. I believe in God and know that he has a plan for my life; and it consists of me finding the love of my life. Faith is very important in every area of my life.
I have a theory, it's called the Pacifier theory. Don't mind me, it's something I made up. Perhaps a thought that just popped into my head. Some people that we meet are only in our lives temporarily. Think of a child whose crying for a bottle, but it's not dinner time yet, so the mother puts a pacifier in the child's mouth to soothe the child until it's time to eat again.
Pacifiers are only used until the real thing comes along; and then you toss it out for the real thing. Many people end up marrying those pacifiers and regretting it later down the road. The divorce rate proves it each time a couple serves each other with divorce papers. Maybe Marty understood that's where he would end up with Rachel; Therefore, he felt he was doing the right thing by leaving Rachel at the alter; or maybe there was someone else on his mind. Whatever the case may be in the story. The pacifier is not meant to stay; and God makes sure that it get's out of the way of His divine plan for you.
You will become sick to your stomach when that temporary guy breaks it off with you. You might even want to die a million deaths. The desire to call him or send him a text will be strong. Did you ever call up an ex just to hear his voice? You don't say a word, you just sit and listen to him say, hello over and over again like a parakeet; and then you hang up the phone. It's sort of hard to do that these days... caller ID and then there is stalking laws. Yeah, I did that stuff a long time ago in my teens and tweens and there were guys who did the same to me as well.
Does God approve of chasing behind someone or stalking them? I know better now than I knew way back then. The serenity prayer should be repeated over and over again until you get it. You can't change the things that aren't meant to be changed. When someone exits my life, I ask God to do His will in my life, which is always in His best interest for me. The pacifier guy was never in His best interest for me.
I realized after being engaged with my ex-fiance who I'll call "Ted" for four years, that it wasn't going anywhere. We would get into major arguments each time we sat at the table to make our wedding arrangements. I felt he just didn't want to be burdened with making wedding arrangements, because most men don't find making wedding plans interesting. Especially when they would rather be watching their favorite sports team and hanging out with the fellows.
There was a couple of times where we wouldn't speak to each other for a few weeks after our arguments. I was very stressed out. My parents were always pressuring me about when was this wedding going to take place. I remember my mother chanting under her breath. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" That was painful, but I started feeling she was right. The engagement ring I was given was just buying my company until he was finished with me, and he later move on.
I decided one night to sit down and write my ex fiance a dear John letter. I sent it snail mail and he received it and called me a couple of days later. He wanted to know why I sent him the break-up letter. He wasn't begging me not to break up with him either. He was like, "well, if that's what you want, just remember if you ever need anything, I'm here." whatever the heck that meant.
In my book, Rachel sunk into a depression and was heartbroken. I wasn't depressed because I made up my mind that it was over with him on my terms, not his. many times the pacifier blocks the view of that tall bottle of milk just waiting to be devoured.
Rachel will learn so much on her journey to find true love. She will first realize that God loves her and that he is her true love, the real deal and in return she will be blessed with a decent mate named, Zach Chambers. He will win her heart, but Zach has some issues he will be dealing with before he realizes that Rachel is the one for him.
We all have to learn and mature before we move on to the things God has in store for us. Get the book "Don't throw the rice, yet." I believe you will find it interesting.
